When raising my boy as a single mom, I naively believed I could be both a mother and a father. Single handedly I planned to work hard and overcompensate so that my son didn’t see any difference when he compared his life with other kids’ lives. I would love him, support him, cherish him, provide for him and rock my responsibilities. I had no idea how important a father would be to his development and emotional well-being.
I had no idea.
Today I understand the importance of having a positive male role model in my son’s life. Both he and I were lucky to have incorporated a variety of influences into his journey towards adulthood. The impact on his social and emotional development has been beneficial. Sometimes, as a mom I can be too nurturing which can, in turn, interfere or tip the scale negatively when it comes to my children’s self-esteem. When mom does everything for her child it also prevents the child from learning independence. A father’s approach provides the balance to that scale. Of course, the opposite can also be true. I think that sometimes men don’t truly understand how much their actions can impact their own child. Continue reading