True inner strength and courage lies in one’s ability to apologize and to forgive. This truth is a scary one because it may require an open, beautiful, and exposed heart. A conflict with another human being, regardless of who it is, is truly never one-sided. Understanding the complexity of our interactions and emotions can be difficult but can also be enlightening and rewarding.
I knew I would make many mistakes when I became a mother. That’s why I decided that I would apologize to my own children when I messed up. When I speak to my children, especially after making some stupid mistake, I remind them that in many ways I am still this little ten-year old girl who somehow became a mom and is trying to figure it all out. Isn’t that really the truth though? Sure we acquire more wisdom as we age, but I for one still have the heart of a child. I don’t think I will ever truly stop learning how to do this motherhood thing, how to do this life thing, how to do this living thing.
I screw up. I apologize. Even to my own children.
It is such a powerful act of love. Honesty is a key ingredient. Honesty with yourself and honesty with others. Continue reading