I am turning fifty this year. As I age, I see more and more people around me struggle with this time in their lives. I do also. I believe that the decisions we made in our twenties and thirties come back to haunt us in our forties and fifties. That’s the darn crisis! Perhaps if we made good decisions, life would be all peaches and cream (has anyone actually eaten that). Let’s face it. A good portion of our twenty plus years focused on being married and raising our children. We were in survival mode! When that’s almost done we have our AHA or WTF moments. ONE CRISIS COMING UP! DING!
If someone today asks you: What is your life’s purpose? What gives it meaning? These are important questions because the way you answer will also lead the way to your future. If you sit here, as you read these words, and tell me that your children are your only life purpose, I will understand your sentiment but will whisper a word of caution. They are only on loan. If you neglect yourself, who you are at the core, all for the sake of your children and your spouse, you may be setting the foundation for some confusion down the road. I think that it’s about balance for all of us at this stage.
Those decisions that you made in your youth will now become the midlife elephant in the room. He will trumpet and stomp and ask you uncomfortable questions. That’s why this time of your age can be difficult. The elephant asks questions like:
- Why didn’t you save money?
- What are your hobbies?
- Do you love your spouse? Does he/she treat you right?
- Are you going back to school?
- Are you taking care of yourself?
- What brings your life meaning?
- What has your marriage taught your children?
- Did you really think he/she would stop cheating on you?
- How much time do you think you have left to take that trip?
- Exactly what day will you start to exercise?
- What else do you have besides your looks because…ummm…they are disappearing!
- Do you need glasses? (LOL sorry why yes, yes I do).
- When will you retire?
- Are you taking care of your health and securing your health for the future?
- What are your goals? What do you want to achieve?
We build prisons of our own making. It’s never too late to write the second half of our lives. Midlife is a blank page. It’s a new beginning. I don’t care if you’re in your forties, fifties, sixties or seventies – your time is NOW. Rewrite your story or finesse it. It’s never to late to stop making excuses. Face the elephant in the room and have your answers ready. It’s never to late to live your best life.