Are you running away or walking away?

Walking away sometimes means staying sane.
Walking away sometimes means staying sane.

A long time ago I learned that there was a big difference between running away and walking away from a difficult person or situation.   Running away means you don’t have the courage or resolve to address something.  Walking away means you have the foresight to understand that you will not be able to change someone’s opinions, beliefs or behaviors.  Perhaps you’ve been down a certain road before and finally realize that the road led nowhere.  Instead of walking down that road again, repeating your journey to a dead-end, you decide to go in a different direction.   Walking away sometimes means preserving your sanity.

Albert Einstein puts this knowledge into perspective.

 Insanity: doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results

I have walked away from jobs, from a friend and from arguments but it wasn’t because I was weak.  I walked away when I was at my strongest.  I was strong enough to respect my own opinions,  loving enough to give someone space when they needed it and wise enough to realize that I couldn’t change someone’s unhealthy behaviors.

Why is this wall not seeing my point?
Why is this wall not seeing my point?

I no longer talk to brick walls.

So the next time someone accuses you of running away I want you to stop and think.  Are you running away or are you choosing to handle a contentious situation with grace and dignity.  Trying to change the unchangeable is senseless.  Feeding anger with anger is soul crushing.  Sometimes walking way requires the most strength and wisdom.

5 responses to “Are you running away or walking away?”

  1. Brenda Avatar
    Brenda

    Nail. Head. Period.

  2. Leanne@crestingthehill Avatar

    Hi – I’ve just discovered your blog (I’m finally getting into this midlife blog thing!) and wanted to say how much I agree with this – learning to graciously detach from things that no longer add value to your life is a gift we all need. Look forward to reading more of your blog 🙂

    1. Rainey Avatar

      Hi Leanne! Thank you so much fpr your comment. I agree and kove he words graciously detach….have a wonderful weekend and thank you for following!

  3. Andrea Redmond Avatar
    Andrea Redmond

    Bravo Lorraine!!

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