My Parenting
During the last six months I’ve made some tough parenting decisions. Those decisions were incredibly difficult and uncomfortable. I put some serious boundaries in place with one of my sons.. It was the hardest thing I’ve ever done. I had to tell him that I couldn’t help him anymore, that he completely owned his life and that I was done and was letting go.
He was crushed. I was devastated.
And he did it. He helped himself. I didn’t enable him any longer and he understood that it was time to love and care for himself and his future. So in dedication to my son, this very difficult and perhaps harsh post is seeped in love but that love, well, it is tough love and it’s a strong love.
Your Parenting
I can’t help you. All children are born into this world naive and innocent. If your child is heading towards a wrong direction there’s only one person who can right that ship with boundaries and discipline and that’s you. You are not helpless, you just need to pay more attention and do things that are uncomfortable. There’s no magic to parenting, just a lot of hard work.
Finances
I can’t help you. I know money is tight, yet you still went on vacation and can’t stop shopping. You can dig yourself out of this financial hole but it will take sacrifice. It’s never too late to save and it’s never too late to protect your future self.
You hate your job and yet you don’t look for another one. If you wait and wait then you will lose your choice and your money will run out.
Health
I can’t help you. I know you don’t feel good and yet you won’t go to the doctor or take care of yourself. There is no one else to blame
I can’t help you. We are all struggling with weight because we are in midlife and some of it is genetic but most of it is because we are indulging. Alcohol, lunches, socializing, portions and lifestyle are what keeps people fat and unhealthy. I can’t help you. I’m trying to take care of my own health. I’m letting go of yours.
Support
If you face something that you can’t control I will be there in a heartbeat. I will always listen and lift you up. There are other challenges in life that you may have contributed to yourself. If you need support, I’m there but the truth is that the only person who can change things is you. You can do it.
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