Take care of your mental health

Big Girls Don’t Cry (or do they)

Do you remember the song “Big Girls Don’t Cry,” by The Four Seasons? This song is about a breakup and when the singer breaks up with his girlfriend, she doesn’t cry. Later in the song, you find out that she actually did cry. The song hit number one in 1967 and remained popular for years to come. For me, the lyrics hit differently and meant I should be ashamed of my sensitivity and emotions. I’ve spoken about that sensitivity in other posts. It took many years for me to understand the importance of mental health in my own life. Finding resources and support to improve your mental health is important. You’re never too old to get help.

Recognize That You Need Help (and deserve it)

It is so important to overcome the stigma of taking care of your mental health. There have been two life-changing moments when I needed support. The first was after my divorce when therapy helped me heal. Therapy transformed my perspective from victim to empowerment. The second time I asked for help was deeply personal. I needed a support group and there are so many in the world for a variety of needs. Support groups are communities of people who help one another. They exist for almost any possible challenge a human being can have, from addiction to parenting and cultural challenges.

Recognizing that you need mental health help and then overcoming your own perceptions or existing stigma is the first step. The second and bravest next step is to ask for help. I would have to say that doing these two things is the highest example of self-love. Below I have links to mental health resources and I encourage you to review them.

Overcoming the Stigma of Mental Health Care

Why do some of us take care of our physical health and ignore mental health? I think that to truly love yourself and to grow, it’s important to recognize the importance of both. Doctors study medicine and whether you are getting help from a medical doctor, therapist or a psychiatric doctor is not important. What matters is that you love and accept yourself enough to treat yourself with grace, compassion, and love. There shouldn’t be a stigma attached to life. We need to overcome the different struggles each of us has and make the world a better place.

Types of Mental Health Resources and Support

I’ve mentioned therapy and support groups but are there other types of resources out there? There are hotlines, apps, discussion forums, social media groups, and your own peers that are good places to start. Schedule an annual checkup and discuss your concerns with your doctor if you don’t want to jump right into these resources. I’ve embedded links but check with your region or country websites to find more!

Big Girls Don’t Cry? Yes, they do. Big Boys also cry. It’s life.