Did Covid destroyed friendships and revealed uncomfortable truths? Yes but it also solidified the bond between friends who lifted each other up during a very difficult time. Many friends had my heart and I had theirs as well. They were my sanity and my light during that dark time. Even if we didn’t see each other often, they checked in on me and I checked in on them. We held each up and loved and accepted each other.
Those who mocked my cautiousness or my desire to protect others, are no longer my friends. Those who held extreme opposite opinions but respected my boundaries and compromised during the pandemic are still people I’m proud to call friends. Character flaws came to light through social media as people posted comments so nasty, so toxic that it revealed more about them than the point they tried to espouse. Covid and the impact on my friendships highlighted my core values; love, respect and compromise. It doesn’t matter we disagree on politics, a virus or religion, common decency means treating each other with care.
Friendships and Gaslighting
One hard truth that I had to address during the last four years is how I gaslit myself. I made so many excuses for people. It’s beyond giving someone the benefit of doubt, it’s letting a racist comment pass or allowing someone to push through my own boundaries. All relationships are a give and take and if you are completely out of balance there’s something wrong. Covid made us face difficult truths.
Let Go with Love
And so I let some people go. Sometimes I’ll run into them at a social gathering or at the store and I treat them with kindness. I choose to be kind and rejoice in the friendships that strengthened during Covid and hold them close. Has Covid destroyed friendships? No. They people did that all by themselves.
Sending love and light to you all.
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